The problem with friends

Having friends, means you'll be there for them and they'll be there for you for when it is most needed. Helping each other when there's an adversity at hand, that's what I mean.

Now… I've found something rather amusing in my little circle of friends, When we try to help someone with some problem. Seen from an outsider it seems your zapping through several TV-Series.

I'll explain…

Every time someone of our group comes to us with a problem, we all do the same – and by "we" I mean every one (I, Jack, DeWinter, Ginger, Giselle, Indigno, Olivia, etc…). We take several steps in the solving of these problems.

Stage 1

The first, is like in every criminal movie, we expose the problem on the full, so that everyone knows (in the restricted group of those trusted to participate in this conversation/intervention), who, what, why, when, where and how.

We only solve something in this stage if there's confusion with the 4w&h, someone mixed the names or the timeline is upside down, or something else of the sort, you get it…

Being most of the times, bigger problems than that, we move to stage two, where we move to CSI series…

Stage 2

We take it to the specific details, autopsy, ballistic, GSR, things like that. Just to check if there's any small print we might be overlooking.

We then quit CSI and follow Without a trace.

Stage 3

We like in the series, build a time line to see if there were signs of an eventual problem, and we sometimes go over our head and back down to the day of birth, just because…

No problems are solved here but it is a very important stage never the less.

Stage 4

Then we change to Numb3rs, not in the sense that we start using math, which we sometimes do, but in this stage we just theorize, and we talk for hours making theories to the why, and no one comes up with any kind of solution, it's just pure, fair, educative discussion without real results.

And to make it all okay we move to …

Stage 5

Where we have several ways to take

1. We stop caring because it is a problem without solution, and there's no such things so the solution must be time, like in Dr. Phill's Show
   
2. Someone says something totally out of hand, and someone other makes an wonderful connection with the problem and finds the solution we needed, like in House M. D.
   
3. Someone was really listening to everything and after some time of gloating, he reveal the perfect solution to everything, like in Psych.
   

And That's how we do it, it's not perfect, it almost never leaves us greatly satisfied, but what matters is us been there, the how or why is secondary…