I've done a lot of thinking and i've decided to tell you the real truth.
I realise i tried to explain myself through the wrong arguments and now you're about to find out how i really feel about this matter. I do know you'll critizice me but, wth, that's what we are here for!
The main reason i don't "do" love is because any person we care about, every human being we let ourselfs to like, it's a loss somewhere down the line. And we lose them to hate, or distance or simply death. Therefore, i see no reason for put myself through that hell when i have the choice of not getting hurt at all..
Now, i know this makes me a coward...but you gotta admit, a smart one!!
(i will not talk about this matter ever again..)
6 comments:
I won´t judge you. Done that, and I´m sorry about that.
I still believe it´s worth it milady, cause what you feel when you love and are loved in return is grant. But yes, most probably there will be a loss and pain, can´t tell you otherwise. It´s a choice all of us have to make. I choose to love and feel some serious pain, but that´s me.
Would you rather live a monotonous life with no ups and downs, or living two lifes? By saying two lifes I mean you can live yours, but you surely live your "love"'s life too, since it will affect both of you, in the good way and the hard way, but "wth, that's what we are here for!", we are here to live life right?
Personally, my life is quite monotonous, (not my choice though =\) that's why I need someone to share, assist, protect, talk,... "love".
And no, I'm not masochist (at least I think not), I do think life is quite harsh too and "living two lifes" it's not quite smart, but hey, "no pain no gain" right? And believe me, pain < gain (greatly).
I think life makes it self challenging, and that makes me kinda look for even more challenges, love is certainly one of them, which may bring family (my main objective) and so on...
Now, final question, would you be a cat lady or will you change your path and live life at max? Remember, we don't know what's beyond life, so you better live it while you can.
This was my first opinion, now the second: (I know this is getting boring but check if any of this strikes you =P)
I've never been in your shoes, so I don't quite know one thing... How do you feel when you see a couple hugging each other and smiling?
How do you feel when someone close to you is in love and because of that, that person always carries a smile bigger than his own face?
I feel kinda empty, wishing I had that silly happy smile on my face. And I bet that when you see a couple breaking up you feel relieved that it wasn't you, am I right?
But that's why I take the risk, and you are not a coward, you are simply cautious, because you don't want to hurt yourself, I definitely understand that, but you gotta ask yourself, what hurts the most? Not to be hurt having a safe life or live on a secure edge (I call it secure edge because you don't literally die, unless you commit suicide, hope not, although you may get hurt)? You must not forget that love doesn't always bring sadness, and love hounds tend to heal.
About the thing of losing the other human being, inevitable for sure, but I'm only talking about death, the other two "hate" and "distance" or even "time" only happens if that human being is not the right one.
"Hate" well, this one isn't quite hard to explain, if you hate or get the point of hating a person in such a way, you have not been made for each other, the key word is "love" which is the opposite or "hate" right?
"Distance", on this one there can be two ways out, or you are the kind of person that it's too busy being busy and you think that love it's just an hobby so you can leave it for a while, so no problem there, OR you simply can't love that person, and then, again, that's not the right person.
"Time" getting tired of the same old sh*t? Make sex or have one more kid to spice the things a little, if this doesn't work, just drop it. Nah, this one it's just a matter of taste/patience I think, which is changing has the time passes by, ex.: elders never thought of leaving their wifes, religious purpose I guess,... but nowadays people get divorced just because... (ok, maybe I am exaggerating) but it's true!
Anyways, the important thing in love is that you don't think about the bad thing but you only see the good things, such thing happens with the people you love, when you look at her/him you don't see their flaws, you try to see the good stuff... But of course you must see if there's water in the pool before jumping =\ which mean, don't go on "love" for the wrong person, or don't try to do it with someone you don't really know, believe me, I've been there, not pleasant.
Well, theres my opinion, not based on others sh*t, as always.
One more thing, did you guys know that love is in fact controllable? =O by 3 hormones to be precise. Saw this on a "National Geographic" documentary.
Finally done,
Calvin.
lolol welcome back Calvin!
Just a question for you: how do you know it´s the wrong person before you explore that path and give it a shot?
I just don´t agree with you on that point, cause one of the caractheristics of falling in love is to loose control, you don´t choose Mr. Right. It just happens.
I miss you Calvin...for real!
about your comment, so we are clear, i could argument against it, but i choose not to because i see you worked hard to write it!
@ Sin:
In my comment I was only referring to get on a serious relationship. Before you went into a relationship you got to know this person BEFORE giving it a try. Attraction isn't enough. If you get to know the person better before giving the shot, it will hurt much less that finding out that the person you thought to be "perfect" it isn't.
Of course it's hard to get control of yourself when you got an attraction, but if you manage to keep your head and don't fly around it would be better.
I got that control and I only lost it once, not gonna happen again.
2 different things: Attraction and love.
Attraction: Not controllable.
Love: (make wise decision) Should be controllable.
Explore the path before give the shot.
But this it's just me, I guess no one thinks the same way I do. This way it's what I call cautious.
@ Milady:
Heya ;D miss you too =P
oohh... I wanted you to destroy my beliefs and try to prove me wrong! lol None of my question were rhetorical, so I would appreciate that you comment and hit me the hardest you can. Maybe it will make me understand more of this subject so I can help you right =P
And don't bother about the hard work, actually it wasn't, I love to type in english so it's cool for me to write long texts, and I had no work at all because it all went out fluently =P
Hope to catch you someday ;D
Calvin.
Ok, I see your point.
My point is, when it´s not only atraction, you should explore what it is. With jumps or falls, whatever suits you best, just do it! Love comes after all the fire went into ashes. It´s still warm and cosy, but it doesn´t burn you tha same way. But hei, that´s me ;)
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